PC muscle relaxation is a highly effective technique for men to last longer during sex, curing premature ejaculation. It's simple to learn and becomes very natural after some practice. However, the technique seems to have slipped under the radar and is only referenced in a handful of books, and even then in some cases is only mentioned in passing.

What's very common in sex books and websites is PC muscle exercises, also known as Kegel exercises. This is where you squeeze and relax your PC muscle in order to strengthen it. Kegels exercises have been popular for decades and appear again and again in books and websites. It's usually said that by strengthening the PC muscle, you gain better control over it.

However, what's rarely said is that tensing your PC muscle during sex will bring you quicker to orgasm, making premature ejaculation worse. Some people might bring the idea of Kegels into sex. But tensing the muscle during sex will make the problem worse.

A Rare Technique

In 2005, after surveying 162 books on sex, I found that 158 mention premature ejaculation, sex for longer or something similar, but only 4 mention PC muscle relaxation. 3 of those 4 also advise tensing or pushing out the PC muscle or squeezing the perineum with fingers. This simply confuses the technique and will bring orgasm quicker.

The earliest reference I can find to PC muscle relaxation is in the book 'The New Art of Sexual Ecstasy' by Margot Anand (HarperCollins, 1989). She mentions something close to PC Relax: "When you feel that you are approaching the point of no return, remain completely still, and relax the anal and genital muscles". She says to relax the muscle on the approach to orgasm and then remain still. This means a break in stimulation for the partner, or a number of breaks if the resting is repeated.

Relaxing the PC muscle as soon as sex starts, and keeping it relaxed is much more effective, and avoids the need to keep still and stop and start.

In the same book, Anand then makes the classic mistake, no less than four times in the same chapter, of telling the man to tense his PC muscle rather than relaxing it. This confuses him and makes the technique useless. Tensing your PC muscle brings orgasm quicker.



Dr. Janet Hall's 'Sex-Life solutions' (Finch, 2004) mentions PC Relax on p131: "During sexual arousal and orgasm, there's usually a tendency to tighten muscles in the pelvic area. If you counter it by consciously relaxing the muscles, you can gain some additional measure of control over the urge to ejaculate".
But then Dr. Hall suggests the finger squeeze (taking the penis out and squeezing the head with your fingers) which confuses the technique, and then suggests the perineum squeeze (pressing on the point at the base of the penis) which counteracts the effect of PC Relax by putting pressure on the prostate rather than reducing it.
A man who tries these techniques together will have little luck controlling orgasm.

'Coping with Premature Ejaculation' by Michael Metz (New Harbinger, 2003) is the only book of the 162 I surveyed that correctly describes the use of PC muscle relaxation. Metz uses the stop-start method and then the PC relax, although he fails to give any diagram showing the location of the PC muscle. He also makes the reader dig through 115 pages of highbrow medical discourse before the PC relax technique is delivered. "Next we'll show you how to develop a sexual arousal continuum as a foundation for your cognitive pacing skills..."
 

Here you can read the survey of sex books here which also includes which books mention clitoris and G-spot massage techniques.