I am 24 and my husband is 34. I have been in many sexual relationships before my husband as well as he. In other words you could say we are both pretty experienced, but I have never EVER had an orgasm. My husband and I have a great sex life, but I CAN NOT HAVE AN ORGASM. I have never even came close during sex. I enjoy sex very much but still no orgasm. During foreplay if my husband is caressing "" my clitoris it feels as if I could and I almost did "once" but truthfully I absolutely can not handle it and I want to soooo badly, but my clitoris is so so sensitive. I can handle it to an extent but the more intense it gets I just can not handle it. It feels great but I can't handle it. I always have to make him stop. Am I crazy? What can I do?
Ok the first question is have you ever had an orgasm on your own?
If not then you should try that first. The expert at making you come - is you. Only you can know the exact touch, pressure, speed and direction that feels good and will make you come. Also on your own there is less emotional pressure to 'perform' so it's a little easier to just let go.
Another possibility is that your G-spot might be a better way for you to come.
When a man stroke a woman's clit, he doesn't always have the right technique (which is different for every woman), so you have to show him exactly what to do, by putting your fingers onto his and moving it around in the way you like. If your man has the wrong technique for you, even slightly, then if he keeps going too much, the nerve endings in your clit become overloaded and it becomes too sensitive.
So get the technique right first, then pleasure should follow. Also, read this post about how your goal should be pleasure, not orgasm.