I am a gay man who has found a lady whom I absolutely adore. I do not consider myself bisexual, as I have never had interest an any other woman in my life. I, too, use gay porn to get myself off. Sex with a woman is not easy for me, and the more I think about it, the more difficult it becomes. But when I finally figured out how to make it work for me, I found it very rewarding. And I have a VERY happy partner!

Have you tried having the young lady watch gay porn with you? If she's not receptive or you're afraid she'll be turned off, start by saying something like- "I found this really funny (or sweet, or erotic) scene in a gay movie that I'd like to share with you". Stay away from anything she might find degrading or too nasty, (like facial cum shots or creampies), in my experience women find that stuff a total turn-off. Just a short scene, don't push. If she's ok with it, ask her if she'd like to try watching a little more. Be honest with her about how much it turns you on and how much MORE it would turn you on if you could watch it together.

Try watching it while you're both comfortable and undressed in bed. Touch her, nibble on her skin, let her know you haven't forgotten about her in favor of the boys on the screen. Point out the parts that excite you the most and tell her why. You may find that she gets aroused as she feels YOU becoming aroused. Stay relaxed. Enjoy yourself with her while you listen to the two studs humping in the background. Once you learn to enjoy yourself with your partner it will become easier each time.

This works very well for us. We have been together for a number of years, and when I find my sex-drive slipping a good shot of porn in the bedroom will usually solve the problem.

Best of luck.