Hi,

I was with a guy recently for the first time and he couldn't properly maintain his erection. He had wanted to be with me for 10 years and now it had finally happened and I felt the same. He would be hard but it wouldn't last that long - I was completely satisfied and think the world of him but I think he was mortified. He has had an operation after an injury on his penis and lots of scarring which is not the same any more for him although I have told him again and again how turned on he makes me, he hasn't made contact since.

But I know he is able to masturbate himself and did so before he saw me that night just thinking ofme ,and make himself ejaculate but couldn't with me. My question is: if he is able to pleasure himself is it erectile dysfunction or am I being totally thick and I am the problem? He seemed very turned on but it seemed to be a case of use or lose it. We did have intercourse many times - partly with success ie after a few mintues he had to stop as it had gone. Any thoughts anyone. Want to help if he does get in touch. M thanks