I have tried the start stop method and i have a few questions... 1) how long should i wait after going to the brink of ejaculation, stopping and then starting back up? I find that after the first time i stop myself, it only takes a second (literally) or a few strokes to bring me right back to the edge. I cant imagine stopping every second or two during sex with my girlfriend just to keep me from going over the edge...2)How long would it take to fix this problem of ejaculating before i want to? I have read the whole section on orgasm control and i just cant make it work... maybe i am just broken or not meant to have long lasting sex.
You're not broken! And you
You're not broken! And you are meant to have longer lasting sex. The very fact that you're on this site is testament to that.
The stop-start is a beginners technique. It's very useful for learning where you pre-gasm is. This is the signal that comes just before orgasm that tells you you're about to have an orgasm.
When you stop, you might have to rest 30 or 60 seconds before you start again. If you only rest for say 5 or 10 seconds, you'll still be close to the edge and you'll have to stop again.
It's true that it makes sex somewhat awkward with all the stopping and starting. But again, the stop-start is a beginners method.
So, you should practice it on your own first during masturbation, so you can identify your pre-gasm.
The next stage is the PC muscle relax. This technique will help you to keep going during sex without stopping. With some practice, you'll be able to just keep going and going as long as you want. But then, you still always have the safety net of stopping when you need to.
So in summary, I'd say practice the stop-start and the PC relax on your own first. This gives you a head start when it comes to sex. Practice, practice practice!