Ideas besides sex?
Alright so I'm a sophomore in college and my girlfriend is a freshman. We've had sex a couple times and love it (naturally) but we've decided to hold off doing it again until marriage, and yes, we both decided that. But we've been having a lot of trouble NOT doing it. Once we get started doing anything, it seems to escalate really fast and we can't seem to stop very easily. Besides the same old, usual foreplay stuff, what can we do to keep ourselves interested in each other without actually having sex? Any "different" ideas would be great, just something to keep the spark in our sex life without the actual sex haha. Thanks a lot, any ideas are greatly appreciated.
Just hold on to your desire and don't do it. God intended sex to happen a certain way. My wife and I have been married for 16 years and we have only ever had sex with each other. Our wedding night is the first time for us both with anyone. We struggled with the desire and were very close to making love many times. We finally just set boundaries and would not allow ourselves to be alone, touching one another. It may seem frustrating to hear, but God will honor your right desire. Just have some faith and stay out of close situations.
"god" has nothing to do with sex, dont listen to that wacko! Whats that god fearing wacko doing on this kind of forum where people talk about golden showers, wouldnt god be upset at him? He's a hypocrit and dont listen to him.
It can be unhealthy and an unecessary strain on an otherwise healthy relationship to deny one another sex. Be smart about it, be safe about it, and enjoy yourself. The only reason you are pressured by your parents to wait until marraige is to avoid pregnancy and children born out of wedlock. Just be smart and dont listen to religious nuts.
tell that to my gf be and my gf been together for almost 4 years now we did everything but sex we just 18 this year and i am might not see my gf after high school. She says wait but if i get her honey enough we can have sex it worked one time but i didnt have a condom so we didn't have sex.
In high school and my freshman year in college i lived like a frat boy. I had sex with strangers, good female friends, basically any girl who i was attacted to. I had anal sex, orgies with me and 3 other girls, and everything else a guy fantisises about. I sophome year I started dating a virgin who was a christian; she told me no sex and set boundaries. I thought she was crazy that God only wanted huspand and wife to ingage in sexual activity. I even broke up with her over it once. We got back together and have been happily married for three month. Even though she was not an "experienced lover" sex as God designed it as a married couple is 100x more passonite and fullfilling. As much as i didn't belive it, sex in marrige is so much better than three naked girls all taking care of me and each other. Its not a "religious nut" thing to the guy who was bashing this idea.
my penis is very small nearly 4 inch, and also i am cumming very quickly. so how to satisfy my wife?plz help
As for cumming too quickly, spend some time getting to know how your body works through masturbation. Learn and practice orgasm control.
My dad used to say finding the right girl is a lot like buying a car, you have to take it for a drive before you know you've found the right one. With that said this is more of my opinion than advice.
Waiting until marriage is bullshit in my opinion.
If you're sticking with one girl (I hope) you arent risking yourself with STDs which is a good thing. You don't have to cut sex off completely (and I recommend you don't) because it does play a big role in relationships if you plan to be serious. (take things in moderation at the least)
If indeed you are planning to carry this relationship as far as it will go, find common interests between you two and do things related to them that dont have to do with sex. If all you two are doing is having sex then I would not recommend marrying this girl if that's what you had planned, it's a nice thing and all but it will only get you so far.
If your relationship is more than just sex all the time and you both mutually feel like it is an indulging relationship even if the sex didn't exist then I think the relationship would probably work out well. You should just allow sex to happen when it happens in this case. Someday when you get older you might just miss these days and these opportunities.
If she can be your best friend and sex partner both at the same time then you know you're getting somewhere.