How can i improve in stamina?
Well, when i have sex i cum a little too quickly.
I just really want to know how to improve in stamina
without taking medicines or eating special foods.
So can you help?
(Oh, iv already read most of the premature ejaculation
topics, and i dont think thats what it is)
(im gonna explaion most details just incase it helps, sorry for any inappropriate wording)
Heres the situation, me and my girlfriend were swimming one day and we started making out
which eventually led to me fingering her. She had an orgasm, then i went home soon after.
Several hours later she calls me asks me if i wanna have sex, i agreed and i went to her place.
We started making out for quite a while, then as i layed down she got on top of me and we began to
have sex. I cant recall the exact time but i beleive it lasted somewhere from five to ten minutes.
I was really confused of why it was so fast so i came here and read a few topics.
One topic said try using masturbation to build up an endurance, and iv been trying
for about a month, it just isnt working, so i stopped and came here for advice...
And thanks for the start-stop technique, i might try that.
5 or 10 minutes is fine, this is completely normal for men, especially younger men.
Sometimes you may last only two minutes or less, even this is perfectly normal.
However, with practice you can last much longer. Have you tried PC muscle relaxtion? Try this while masturbating first. It may take a few sessions or a few weeks to see an effect. Like any activity or sport, you are trying to learn to use muscles in a new and different way.
And again, use the stop-start while you're practicing PC muscle relaxtion during masturbation, this will help each session to last longer.
I am 40 years old an I am having the opposite affect . When i was younger I use to last for hours I would even come 2 or 3 times at times in a night. But now I am having problems lasting 15 mts I tried stop and go but my wife doesnt want me to stop, ive tried special creams but the effect only last afew minutes
15 minutes is a good time! (for the untrained...) A lot of men last only two minutes. However with some practice you can last much much longer.
Stop and go (aka stop-start) is a technique you should use for practice while masturbating, or as a safety net during sex when you get too close to orgasm. But yes, it's annoying for your partner. So, as mentioned above, concentrate on PC muscle relaxtion and slow breathing in the male orgasm control section. You must use these techniques from the start of sex, not just when you get too close to orgasm. This will help you stay away from orgasm as much as possible, while still maintaining a solid erection (which comes from relaxation of your body and mind) and still going through the motions of sex.
Yes, it takes focus, concentration and practice. But the rewards are worth it.
The creams are useless. They reduce the touch sensitivity of the skin of your penis, but not the pressure sensitivity of your penile glans, which is what will make you come the quickest.
A final note, particularly for older men, another problem is losing the erection. If you find this happening, tense your PC muscle for a few moments to increase pleasure and build the erection back up.
i'm 16 and my gf is looking to have sex but i'm kinda scared, not of sex but how long i should last ?
when masturbating its between 1:30 and 2mins
i'm 16 and my gf is looking to have sex but i'm kinda scared, not of sex but how long i should last ?
when masturbating its between 1:30 and 2mins
1:30 to 2 minutes is perfectly normal. Obviously though you'll want to last longer during sex. The only way to be sure of this is to practice the techniques while masturbating. You'll learn much much quicker on your own.
Go through the techniques mentioned above in this post
Maybe try with your girlfriend on top first, this makes it easier to last longer.
Bravo to you for even being concerned about it! Of course, I know that most men are concerned about their "performance" but you seem to genuinely care about whether or not you're lasting long enough to give your g/f pleasure and that counts big!! What I would suggest is that sometime when you and your girlfriend are just hangin' out (not making out, NOT getting ready to have sex etc...) and talking about completely unrelated things, say something to her like, "You know that when we have sex, I want to make sure that it's REALLY great for you...and I read someplace that I'll last longer if I have an orgasm BEFORE we actually get down to doin' the deed!" It's a good idea to talk about this kind of stuff when there's no pressure; instead of mentioning it right when you're both stripping down! That way she can think it over in a sort of "neutral" situation. If she seems interested in "helping you out" that's great! But, if for her (some girls feel this way which I really don't understand since anything you'd be doing would be with the intention of increasing HER enjoyment....but go figure!?) if she feels like it would ruin some of the "romance" of the moment....then figure out a way that you can masturbate to ejaculation BEFORE the two fo your get naked together! In general, it takes longer for guys to come the second time and by <ahem> "getting off" before the two of you are together in the moment....you'd be a little bit LESS sensitive and maybe still in that "recovery" stage while she's focused on how awesome everything feels. This would allow you to "last longer" and still really have fun.
Of course, as was already mentioned the amount of time you stated is really perfectly normal and not at all "too quick," as long as we're talking about time from penetration to ejaculation and not the entire sexual encounter including foreplay! If it's 10-15 minutes from the first kiss and getting undressed to the first snores as you wipe the sweat off your face.....well, then, shit...that would be a bad thing. 
Just take your time and make sure that she's enjoying herself and then everything else will fall into place, I'm sure. All of my male friends tell me that the thing that turns them on more than anything else....is watching the woman that they're with writhe in ecstasy! Just knowing that they've given her so much pleasure and made her come is more than enough to take them right over the edge too....but it's ALL about that for them. They say that the best sex they've ever had has always been when the woman has been screaming and climbing the walls, just out of her head with pleasure! Maybe I have unusual friends, but I think that my guys all know a couple of things about what turns a woman on...I'm just their friend, BUT the girls that they date always seem pretty darn happy to me!
Good luck! Be well and take care....it'll all fall into place over time. You sound like a conscientious guy and that's half the battle!
Personally, i recommend 'emptying the tank' 2 to 3 hours before sex, so when its time, you have just enough energy for a boner....making the worst thing that could happen be that you're tired, therefore she has to do the work
Also, if you have problem getting hard again for multiple masturbation before sex, jus wait till she gets there and she should sort you. Also, communication is a big KEYY (obviously pending on relationship- wife/girlfrend would be better than a one night stand chick
But ultimately, if u cant get hard then dont force it, get her 'excited' and she'll try to get you excited, plus theres nothing wrong in turning it down for once
Hi I have problem that I try stop technique but partner doesn't want to stop and she keeps on pumping and also everytime I go for sex I feel that I have to urinate as feel bladder is full and even in middle I feel that I should go for urinating.If I don't go for urinating in middle I feel I go faster.why
Much more effective is to stay as far from orgasm as possible during sex. Do this using the male orgasm control techniques and you will last much much longer. It takes focus and willpower but the rewards are worth it.
After you've satisfied your partner, then you can have your own cake and eat it.
Once you learn to pull back from the edge of orgasm without going over, this gives you more time to practice the other techniques - PC muscle relaxation, slow breathing and third eye meditation.
Of course your partner doesn't want you stop ... she wants you to keep going. And you are going to do this by using the above techniques. Read through the orgasm control section and practice all the techniques, particularly on your own during masturbation.
As for your bladder - go to the bathroom before you have sex. If you still feel like you have to urinate, you may have a bladder / urinary / kidney infection, go to a doctor to get this checked out.
Ok, a couple of questions.
What age are you?
What techniques have you tried so far?
When you say 'too quickly', how long do you actually last? (be honest!)
How long has it been since you first started practising with the techniques?
Have you tried having sex where you are underneath (you'll last longer)
For you, the most important technique would be the stop-start. So if you find yourself getting too close, just stop, or if you're really close, pull out completely and rest for a minute or two (go back to foreplay to keep your partner interested)
This should help you avoid orgasm, which gives you more time in each session to practice.