Her past
Hi, I'll cut straight to the chase with this one.
When I met my girl I was a virgin and she was not. We played it cool and waited it out for a while and then eventually did it. We have been together for a while now and are both madly in love with each other.
My problem is that sometimes I find myself thinking about her past and how she was with a couple of other guys before me. It just plays on my mind and I kind of wish that I was her first as well. It makes me feel very glum when I think that someone else has been 'inside' her.
I am absolutely sure that she is the one for me, I just wish that these thoughts would go away so I can be 100% happy and wouldn't keep stirring myself up.
I also kind of feel bad that she has to reassure me a lot, telling me that I am the best and the one for her - I don't directly say that her past bothers me, but I do feel that I imply things.
Can anyone relate to this? Or just give me some ideas/advice on the subject?
that was a similar situation with me and my ex, except im in your girl's position
i know it's a lot easier to say this than do it
but maybe you just need to let go
if a girl loves a guy the sex wil be 50 million times better than just anyone, regardless of skills.
my ex used to make me feel really guilty because i had been with one guy before him, so even though it gets you down, just try to make sure you dont do that to her. or you might lose her
if you think she's the one then you'll have to get past it coz clearly you are the only one for her
good luck
dude just forget about it.. if she is the one just be happy that you found a gal nd feel like that! seriously because if it keeps going on she will leave you and then you will just keep thinking about how stupid u was lettin that get in the way! If anything its probably better that she has had others.. if you want to be with her for ages atleast she will never wonder what its like to have sex with others and you know she just wants you!? i guess? lol
Don't worry about it. Everyone has some past and if you really love her, forget about her past and make her happy always.
girls forget everything about their past when they fall in love so don't worry about it.
I can't say mine was the same. I mean we are in love with each other and i had the V-card and she didnt but I don't think about who else was inside her just as long as I'm the only one in there from the first day we had sex to the last time we had sex. Though I do wonder every now and then am I her best or worse lol. Then I think about reactions after sex and I find that she is extremely satisfied so I really don't mind the thoughts too much.
*sigh* i have felt the exact same way. my bf had tons of girls bf he ended up with me. so many he cant count. it really hurts me even though weve been together for years and he says hes going to marry me. im always wondering if im the most beautiful to him or if he likes having sex with me more than any of those other girls. i think thats why your not supposed to have sex until your married bc things like this happen, but nothing can make it right or make it go away. but even though thats true you have to try not to think about it or let it bother you bc it will lead down a bad road. trust me
I know exactly where you are coming from. I met my wife when i was still a virgin and it still bothers me now and then. We need to get over our insecurities and love them because they wouldn't be with us if they didn't.
That has to be the best response I have read. Thankyou.
Hi,
Just wanted to say that sometimes things aren't what the seem like with the past. I regret mine completely, my past bfs were the biggest mistakes of my life. I wouldn't want it to ruin anything with my current bf, who had the 'V' and lost it to me. He means the world to me, I wish every day that I had lost it to him, as he did to me.
Maybe you should talk to her about it, it may be that she is the same... and trust me, a past like that can really play on a girl's mind.
Thanks.
dude i feel the same way when i was with my ex....but actually i got depressed over it i used to tell her i wasn't ready and we never had sex cause i was always afraid I'd be her second favorite. or third and so on. And of corse though no sex she broke up with me after 2 years so yes i have had the same prolem...either get it over with or get a new one...thats what i did. and she's a virgin just like me...well not anymore lol