Clittage: she strokes her clit on you

A common way for women to get sex pleasure and orgasm is to rub their clit on some part of the male body (or any object, really). She can rub her clit on your thigh, your arm, your tongue, or up and down the shaft of your erect penis. This can in fact be more pleasurable for a woman than intercourse. The word clittage comes from clit + frottage (rubbing sex organs together).

• Exercise 7: Clittage

Lie on your back and get your female partner to kneel astride you - the woman on top position. Now get her to press her clit into your penis and rub up and down. This is a fairly common move. It's easy for a woman to get a lot of clit sex pleasure this way. You can use lubrication to increase sensation between clit and penis. Don't go straight to intercourse. Hang back and let her take her pleasure, for as long as she wants.

Figure 5. Clittage Side view. She rubs her clit along your penis (click to enlarge)

The crux of the move is that she controls all movement, speed and pressure. Her bodyweight is pressing down onto her clit and labia, amplifying sensation. She's in control of every last movement so every move is exactly what she wants. It's a highly efficient, reliable, pleasure mechanism.

It's also a common way for women to masturbate, by rubbing the clit on any object - pillow, towel, vibrator, teddy bear.

You can try the clit-penis rub in reverse - with the man on top. Have her lie on her back and lift her legs high. You then get on top and rub your penis along her clit and labia. Its nice, but its not as good as when she's on top, apparently.

Also she can rub her clit on your tongue. See oral sex, the woman on top part.

Finger Clittage

A similar move is where she rubs her clit against your finger. This can be done in more or less any position, but reverse positions are best (eg. doggy, spoons). You basically press your finger onto her clit and she rubs back and forth into it. You don't move at all, she does all the moving. Again this works well cos she is in control.

• Exercise 8: Finger Clittage

Ok here's two positions you can try this in: spoons (both lying on side, she faces away from you) and reverse chair (on a chair with your partner facing away from you). Don't go to intercourse yet. Try it without intercourse first. Once you're in position, simply place your finger (or possibly two fingers) onto her clit and let her thrust her hips back and forth. Her clit rubs back and forth against your finger. Don't try to move your finger around, just let her do all the work.

Dancefloor Clit Sex

Clit sex moves are not limited to the bedroom... try this one on the dance floor:

• Exercise 9: Dancefloor clittage

While dancing, move close together. Put one of your legs between your partner's legs. Now she can rub her clit gently against your upper thigh, through your clothes (or not, as the case may be). Bend your knees a little and put your hands on her waist. Move with the music. Side to side is usually better than back and forth.
Do it lightly, don't ram your leg into her. Let her control the pace and the pressure - she will be the one taking the pleasure, not you.

  I always wondered why women like tango so much...

Learn from the Expert

There are many ways to have clit sex. Your partner may prefer constant stroking in just one spot on her clitoris: just on the root for example, or on the tip or either side. Some women might find this highly irritating or numbing and may prefer you to change stroke every so often. She may not like clit sex at all, or may only like some type of stroking not discussed here.
Experiment. You can spend time masturbating yourselves in front of each other, or masturbating each other, or she can play with her clitoris during sex, or you can do it for her, and so on.
If possible, get her to guide you. Ask her to put her hand on top of yours as you stroke her clit and give you signals - ask to her to press on your hand if she wants it heavier, push down if she wants it further down, and so on. Or ask her to take your finger and place it exactly where she wants it.
This is the quickest and most efficient way for you to learn. She is the expert. Ask her to show you how she masturbates using her clit. Notice the position of her hands, exactly where her fingers are on her clit and labia, what direction they move in and how fast. Then just copy what she does. Realise that masturbation, for both women and men, is the most reliable and efficient sex activity available. Its capable of delivering incredible amounts of pure raw sex pleasure.
Its likely your partner has spent years perfecting her technique. She knows the exact speeds, pressures and locations to use. Learn from her. The closer you get to the way she masturbates, the more pleasure you will give her.

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