Slow your breathing to hold off orgasm

As you come near orgasm, your breathing usually gets faster and your heart rate increases. If you breathe slowly, your heart rate will decrease slightly and orgasm will be easier to hold off. Try it first during masturbation:

• Exercise 6: Breathe slowly during masturbation

Take a long, deep inhale, wait a few seconds, and exhale slowly. Begin masturbating as normal. Maintain slow, controlled breaths. The closer you come to orgasm, the faster your breathing will get. Focus on long, calm breaths: inhaling, holding for a few seconds, then exhaling. If you get your pregasm, stop before you go over the edge. Make sure to maintain the same relaxed breathing throughout. Repeat as desired.

As your breathing slows, your body will enter a calm, relaxed state. Because orgasm is associated with fast breath and fast heartrate, slowing your breathing basically fools your body into thinking it is not ready to orgasm. There is a simple way to make sure each breath is slow:

• Exercise 7: Breathe through your nose

Again, try this first during masturbation. Breathe slowly and deeply through your nose. Nose breathing ensures slower breaths to the lungs since the nostrils are a smaller passageway than the mouth. Keep masturbating as you do this. Maintain nose breathing from the beginning, and concentrate on breathing slowly if you get near orgasm. Keep your mouth closed. Inhale and exhale through your nose.

Try not to strain or force any breath or make a loud breathing sound. Let the air naturally flow in and out. If you find nose breathing uncomfortable or have a blocked nose, mouth breathing can be effective if each inhale and exhale is long, slow and deep. Then try it with sex:

• Exercise 8: Breathe slowly during sex

From the beginning of sex, breathe slowly and deeply through your nose. Deeply inhale, hold and then slowly exhale. Have sex slowly at first. As you feel orgasm coming closer, focus on keeping this slow relaxed rhythm. If you get your pregasm and have to stop and rest, keep the same slow nose breathing going during the pause.